Is he long-term or short-term?
So I want to start off by telling you that the old saying that you hear people saying that you have to go through the bad to get to the good is true! The process of dating can lead to good long-term things or it could be bad short-term things. Personally I will tell you all I have had the worse and I feel that now I can recognize better. I want to explain exactly what I mean so let’s do some dating chat.
When dating someone it should be a fun and exciting time for both you and him. You both should be putting in effort to get to know each other and build up a bond that becomes unbreakable. I learned quickly to identify suspicious behavior when dating someone. Now that may sound a bit off or funny but I promise I have a reason for saying that. Do you know that during the dating stage you ask lots of questions and actually listen to remember the answers? Well if you knew that I want you to know you are one of the smarter ones because up until recently I didn’t even know particularly men had that in them. As women we get so use to the wrong ones that we become immune to it. We also should never look at that as normal because it’s not!
Lately I’ve found out ladies that there is some hope for us! If you follow my posts regularly then you already know I only write on what I know and have experienced so when I tell you that there is a man out there that will listen to you, pursue you consistently, be there for you, bring NO baggage your way, be honest with you, date you with better intentions than just to sleep with you, put you first, be faithful and loyal to you I’m telling you the truth! Ladies if you are getting anything less that those things he is NOT the one.
The purpose of this dating chat is that you will be able to identify a guy who is good for you if you are looking for short-term. It’s the suspicious behavior that gives it away. That man can tell you what you want to hear but watch how he handles you. If every time that man sees you it’s at your house and always includes straight to the bed and then he dips out, that is not the man who is looking for long-term with you. Yea that guy may like what he is getting from you but that’s it! That guy is not dating you because you have a beautiful smile, beautiful personality, your honest, loyal, and faithful. A real man is going to not only be attracted to you physically, but mentally, and emotionally. That man is going to want to know all about you and he will invest time into doing so.
Never allow someone to tell you they are so busy with work and daily life that they can’t make time for anything other than coming to CHILL with you, handle their business then leave. Dating is fun and relaxed but remember when you date a person you are dating with a purpose! I say don’t date a when can I come chill with you type guy. You have to get you a hey how you doing can I take you out type of guy. I promise you those are the best. They make their intentions known and leaves no room for guess-work and you can’t ask for better than that. It’s the simplest things that REAL men do that will make you want them more.
So if that man don’t have you feeling like a queen, give you hope and faith that not all are the same then that’s those short-term guys, you better watch out for them and let them go! Having the worse has definitely paved the way for the best to come just pay attention to how he handles you. I’ve enjoyed the dating chat you all have to let me know your experiences as well in the comments. Read this here as well for more dating chat.